Marriage is a sacred union established by God. As a Christian woman, it is essential to prepare for this lifelong commitment with a foundation rooted in faith and biblical principles. The journey towards marriage involves self-discovery, spiritual growth, and aligning your heart with God’s design for love and partnership.
Let us explore how to prepare for marriage as a Christian woman, drawing wisdom from the Scriptures. Plus, I have a FREE ‘Dear Future Husband Prayer Template’ to prepare you for your future husband further.
Let’s begin!
1. Seek God First
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” – Matthew 6:33 (NLT)
The first and most crucial step in preparing for marriage is to seek God above all else. Prioritise your relationship with Him, grow in prayer, study His Word, and surrender your life to His will. A strong foundation in Christ will help you navigate the joys and challenges of marriage with grace and wisdom.
When we seek God first, we invite His divine wisdom and guidance into our lives. God knows us intimately and understands our needs and desires. By prioritising our relationship with Him, we open ourselves to His leading, allowing Him to direct our steps and choices in the pursuit of a godly marriage.
Seeking God first helps us align our desires and plans with God’s perfect will for our lives. God has a unique plan for each of us, including the choice of a life partner. As we seek Him diligently, we grow more attuned to His voice and better equipped to recognise and embrace the person He has destined for us.
A Christ-centered marriage requires a strong foundation in faith. By seeking God first, we lay the groundwork for a marriage built on biblical principles, love, and commitment. This foundation will sustain us through the trials and joys of married life, enabling us to navigate challenges with grace and perseverance.
Without seeking God first, we may be susceptible to making hasty or emotionally-driven decisions in our pursuit of marriage. Seeking God’s guidance helps us avoid potential pitfalls, such as entering into unequally yoked relationships or choosing partners who may not align with God’s plan for our lives
Related: How to Hear God’s Voice
2. Cultivate Godly Character
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” – Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV)
As you prepare for marriage, strive to cultivate godly character traits. As Christians, our ultimate goal is to reflect the image of Christ in our lives. Seek the Holy Spirit’s guidance to develop qualities like love, patience, kindness, and self-control. By embodying these traits, we can better love and serve our future spouse in a way that brings glory to God but also positively impact other areas of our life.
Emotional intimacy is a crucial aspect of any successful marriage. Cultivating godly character allows us to develop qualities like patience, empathy, and understanding, which are vital for fostering emotional connection and intimacy in a relationship.
Cultivating godly character fosters spiritual unity between spouses. When both partners are committed to growing in their faith and emulating Christ-like virtues, they encourage and support each other on their spiritual journey. This shared commitment to God deepens their bond and brings them closer together.
God designed marriage to be a reflection of His love and covenant with His people. By cultivating godly character, we honour God’s intention for marriage and strive to live out His plan for the marital relationship. Also, as a Christian woman, your life and marriage serve as a testimony to others. Cultivating godly character allows you to exemplify Christ’s love and transformation, inspiring others to seek a deeper relationship with God and pursue godly relationships.
No marriage is without its disagreements and conflicts. Cultivating godly character equips us with the tools to address conflicts in a Christ-like manner, promoting reconciliation, forgiveness, and understanding. Additionally, godly character involves humility and selflessness. These qualities are essential for creating a harmonious and loving marriage, as both partners put each other’s needs above their own.
Related: How to be a Woman of God
3. Embrace Contentment and Patience
“I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” – Philippians 4:11b (NIV)
Contentment and patience are virtues that will serve you well in preparing for marriage. These virtues demonstrate our trust in God’s perfect timing. As we wait on the Lord, we acknowledge that His plans are better than our own, and He knows what is best for us, which helps us to avoid rushing into a relationship out of desperation or societal pressures but instead, wait patiently for the partner God has prepared for us. As, trusting in God’s timing allows us to surrender our desires and anxieties, knowing that He is in control and will bring the right person into our lives at the appointed time.
The season of waiting can be a time of tremendous emotional and spiritual growth. Embracing contentment encourages us to find joy and fulfilment in our current circumstances, even if we are single. This contentment allows us to focus on personal growth, deepening our relationship with God, and becoming the person He wants us to be before entering into marriage.
Singleness is a valuable season to appreciate and cherish. Embracing contentment and patience allows us to make the most of this time, enjoying the freedom to serve God wholeheartedly, develop meaningful relationships, and grow in our faith without distractions.
Related: 4 Ways to be Content in Your Singleness
4. Pray for Your Future Spouse
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” – Philippians 4:6 (NIV)
Pray earnestly for your future spouse, even before you meet them. Lift them up in prayer, asking God to bless and guide them in their journey of faith. Praying for your future partner is an act of trust, you demonstrate your willingness to surrender your desires and plans to God’s perfect will. You acknowledge that God knows what is best for you and trust Him to bring the right person into your life at the appointed time.
Praying for your future spouse invites God into your love story from the very beginning. It recognises that your future marriage is not solely about you but is a covenant with God at its core.
Related: How to Have a God-Centred Dating Relationship
Dear Future Husband Prayer Template [FREE]
As a Christian woman, one of the most significant decisions you will make in life is choosing a life partner. Your future husband is someone whom God has specifically ordained for you, and praying for him can be a beautiful way to surrender your desires and trust in the divine plan for your love story.
I have created a FREE ‘Dear Future Husband Prayer Template’ which includes template prayers you can pray in different areas of your future husband’s life, with bible verses you can use to personally pray over him and ways you can discern husband qualities in a man.
To gain access to the free template, all you need to do is click here and enter your name and email address to download the template.
5. Develop Strong Friendships
“A friend loves at all times…” – Proverbs 17:17a (NIV)
Invest in meaningful and godly friendships as you prepare for marriage. Surround yourself with friends who share your values and can offer support and encouragement along the way. Trusted friends can be a source of comfort, wisdom, and empathy, helping you navigate the ups and downs of relationships and offering a listening ear during times of uncertainty. These relationships will be a source of strength and joy in your journey towards marriage.
Close friendships foster accountability in your walk with God and your pursuit of a godly relationship. Friends who share your faith can gently hold you accountable to your values and convictions, ensuring you stay true to your commitment to honour God in your future marriage. They can also offer an objective and balanced perspective on potential relationships. They can help you evaluate your feelings and decisions wisely, preventing you from rushing into a relationship without careful consideration.
Friendships are a place for mutual learning and growth. By cultivating strong friendships, you can gain insights from others’ experiences, both in their relationships and their spiritual journey. These lessons can be invaluable in preparing you for a successful and fulfilling marriage. Also, it is a great way to observe healthy relationships among friends and can help you recognise the characteristics of a Christ-centered partnership. By witnessing positive interactions and genuine love between couples in your circle, you can better understand what a healthy and God-honoring relationship looks like.
Related: How to be a Godly Friend
6. Seek Wise Counsel
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed.” – Proverbs 15:22 (NIV)
Seek counsel from mature and wise Christians, such as pastors, mentors, or married couples you admire. Their guidance and insights can offer valuable perspectives and help you make informed decisions in your preparation for marriage.
Wise counsel can help you recognise potential pitfalls and red flags in a relationship. As emotions can cloud judgment, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. These advisors can offer objective perspectives, ensuring that you are not blinded by emotions or infatuation, help you discern if the person you are considering as a life partner is compatible with your values and goals, and ensure you approach decisions with a clear and rational mind.
Engaging in open and honest conversations with wise counsellors can lead to personal growth and self-awareness. As you share your thoughts and concerns, they can help you explore your strengths, weaknesses, and areas of growth, contributing to your emotional and spiritual preparation for marriage.
Preparing for marriage as a Christian woman involves a deep commitment to God and His Word. Embrace the values of love, patience, contentment, and godly character as you seek God’s will in your journey towards marriage. Trust that in His perfect timing, He will bring the right partner into your life. Remember that marriage is not only a union of two individuals but also a covenant with God. With faith as your guide, may your future marriage be a reflection of God’s love and grace.
Stay blessed,
Divine L.
Hi, I am Divine L., your sister-in-F.A.I.T.H., who is passionate about discipling Christian girls to be a walking embodiment of Jesus Christ in their daily lives and to help young girls and woman become who God destined for them to become. It is a great blessing to welcome you to the F.A.I.T.H. sisterhood!